Saturday, July 2, 2011

let it go

today i'll be writing about how to let go. let go of everything that you feel miserable, painful and hate the most. some people might say, "just let it go!". but then it is not as easy as you sleep even sometimes sleep can be the most hardest thing to do when you really want to do it. specifically, i'll be talking about to let go in love, the emotions.

WARNING: I AM NOT DR. LOVE. I AM NOT EVEN QUALIFIED TO BE ONE. IT'S JUST BASED ON MY EXPERIENCE. ;)

yes, i'd once got through the most painful moment in love's life. it is so painful that i could turn to be haters, you name it to me, all the bad things that i rarely did, i'd done it. my strength at that time turned into dust. i was so fragile eventhough i  never show my emotion at that time. but deep inside my heart, only ALLAH knows how it so painful to lost the thing that i love the most apart from my family. now i know it is so hard to let it go something that once was a history of your life.

BUT

life has to move on. it is good to feel sad. but then don't carry away with the feeling. it kills you slowly. try to forget the memories, as my mom said, "orang dah tak nak dekat kita, buat apa kita nak sibuk-sibuk lagi ingat". susah memang susah. sangat la susah. i couldn't deny it though. but everything that happen must have a reason right. so, be positive ladies. don't look over the past walaupun the memories were like as sweet as honey or as beautiful as paradise pun, that's just a devil's play. return back to ALLAH. of course sometimes kita akan rasa rindu la apa la kan, but then, keep away all those stupid feelings, fill it with al-Quran verses. insya-ALLAH, that is the most effective medicine on how to forget all those things. it had worked for me excellently, so i know it will give the same effects to you too. we can even pray to ALLAH and ask Him to forget our memories about 'that' thing if you don't have the strength to do it. and my lecturer had taught me this du'a if you have any problem,

إِنـَّا ِللَّـهِ وَإِنـَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ، اللَّـهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي وَأَخْلِفْ لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا
Maksudnya : Sesungguhnya kami milik Allah dan kepadaNya kami akan kembali (pada hari kiamat). Ya Allah! Berilah pahala kepadaku dan gantilah aku dengan lebih baik(dari musibahku)

 so, move on. let bygone be bygone. there's a reason why. you never know what will happen in the future. 

وَعَسَى أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَكُمْ وَعَسَى أَنْ تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَكُمْ وَاللهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنْتُمْ لاَ تَعْلَمُونَ
Warfare is ordained for you, though it is hateful unto you; but it may happen that ye hate a thing which is good for you, and it may happen that ye love a thing which is bad for you. Allah knoweth, ye know not. [2:216]
another thing, you may say that you've moved on, but then you don't act like one. ladies, don;t say to your friends or make a public statement that you're okay you're single. THAT'S SO NOT OKAY. you still keep in your memories while your bf has his own life enjoying his day with new gf maybe. or he had completely moved on his life without remembering us pun kan. so, you too my dear sisters, live your life, explore the world, get back to your friends if you ever missed them out along your relationship with your ex-bf. you never know right? don't show as if we're too desperate for our painful memories. let it die with time. just leave it behind ok. insya-ALLAH, you can do it! :)



1 comment:

ellisal said...

ten thumbs up! (: